The Perfect Date

Why is it so hard to find a decent guy in Los Angeles who will pay attention to every word you say? I mean REALLY pay attention...to the point where he notices that you don't touch your water at restaurants unless they bring you a straw. A man who knows all your favorite things and really puts an effort into planning a good date?

Alas, such a man DOES exist!! Saturday night I sat outside the restaurant waiting for my date to show up. To my surprise, he shows up with the most gorgeous bouquet of Lillis --they looked fake they were so beautiful & perfect! Did I mention Lillis were my favorite flowers? Ooooh and there's more!! He tells me that he has two friends, up and coming artists, who he told about me and things I enjoy and they actually did a couple original pieces of art for me since he knows that I enjoy the arts. He hands me a gift wrapped item and as I unwrap it, I see two laminated pieces of work. From children. He had his two little cousins draw pictures for me --it was me, holding a monkey (my favorite animal) in a beautiful bathroom (I have an obsession with gorgeous bathrooms). Cute. Very clever...

Well, we sit down and he tells the waitress to bring 2 waters --and 2 straws please (way to pay attention to detail! Love it!) And after a delicious meal, we walk over to his car where he tells me he has a surprise for me. A goody bag of all my favorite things. In the bag was two bottles of lotion (I have a facination with lotions), a pack of Chapstick (I'm obsessed with Chapstick), a can of bacon/bean flavored soup (I love both soup and bacon), a bag of Cheetos (mmm, yum!), and men's underwear with bananas on them (the monkey thing and my love of underwear). He tells me that he went to Victoria Secrets with a friend to buy me underwear but realized that might be a bit creepy to give me a thong for a second date--so instead went with the boxers. He had obviously put so much thought and effort into this whole date and I must say, I was VERY impressed!!!!

Who wouldn't love a guy to pay this much attention and does so much planning for a date??? It was so thoughtful! It was the perfect date............well, it would have been the perfect date had I been actually attracted to the guy.

I was hoping that seeing him again would make me like him some how and make me be more attracted to him. Instead I spent the whole time thinking, 'Man!!! I'd LOVE for a guy who I'm actually truly attracted to do all this for me!!'

As I sat on the couch sharing the bag of Cheetos with my mother and telling her the story, she said exactly what I was thinking: You have to let him down gently and tell him you appreciate the gesture, but he is just not the one for me.

Ugh. I hate these sorts of talks.
I'm so much better at just ignoring the person and hoping that it all goes away.

Call me superficial, but there are certain things that are complete deal breakers --no matter how 'nice' and 'thoughtful' and 'sweet' a guy is. Yes, obviously it would be amazing to have a man who pays attention to detail but at the same time you have to have that PASSION! I want to have the urge to JUMP my guy every time I see him...not be cringing at the thought of him touching me. I don't know...maybe I am picky. But I think picky is good --I know what I want and I won't settle for any less. Any more, that is. I think it is pretty apparent that I have let my 'standards' down given my previous relationships. But I like to think that I've learned from them all.

Perhaps writing off a guy with 1 crooked tooth was a bit harsh...but come on! I can't date someone like that! I'd spend the whole relationship staring at that ONE crooked tooth! I tried to over look it --I got to the date early at the bar just so I could save a seat to the LEFT of me so that I wouldn't have to look at the tooth on the left, but he beat me to the bar and had saved ME a seat front and center for the crooked tooth show.

And yes, yes I did stop dating the other guy who's teeth I thought were too big for his mouth--but just the thought of him trying to kiss me with the huge horse teeth.....ugh.

I know, I know...I'm awful. But what can I say, I'd rather hold out for what I really WANT rather than settle for less. Is that so wrong?